Kids...
The other day my son was on the school playground at recess. He saw a much bigger child pushing his little sister down. She's in the first grade and he's in fifth. My son went up to the bully and said "Keep away from my sister punk!" The bully ran up and told my daughter's teacher that he was being picked on by a 5th grader.
The teacher confronted my son and he told her what had happened on the playground. The teacher looked to my daughter and asked:
"Is it true that this little boy pushed you down and your brother came to help?"
My daughter replied: "No teacher, my brother is lying"
So my son gets written up for bullying a 1st grader.
When my daughter was walking to the car I noticed that there was one kid on the sidewalk that she wouldn't get within 50 feet of, even with me standing right there. I asked her why she was so afraid of that kid.. she wouldn't answer me.
When my son got in the car he was very upset and told me what happened.
It took me about 20 minutes to get the truth out of her. She was so terrified of this boy that she sold out her own brother. I'm thinking, where the hell are the teachers when all this shit is happening?
So anyway, I told her that she had to go to school and tell the teacher that she lied and that the kid did in fact bully her.
I really didn't think she would follow through, but she did. I asked her what happened to the bully. She told me "The teacher yelled at him a lot and sent him to the principal and we didn't see him all day.
The funny thing is that I know this bully, he runs his household and even has his mother and aunt cowering in fear...of a first grader!
Even funnier is, that after the bully was chastised for his actions he did not go to school for a week and now his mother personally escorts him from the classroom to the car. Isn't that the way it always is? The bullies are coddled little sociopaths that can do no wrong.
posted by Bill Rowland @ May 08, 2008
28 Comments
28 Comments:
Oh brother do I know the type. We have a few of them living in this neighborhood. One of them is an
8th grade boy who was picking on my 11 year old son, so I had my then 16 year old daughter go man-handle him. I wanted him to see what it felt like to be picked on by somebody older, and a girl to boot. He screamed like a little sissy.
Listen to me, do I sound psychotic to you?
It's kids like the one you described who go on to be crappy adults too. Hopefully something or someone sets that boy straight or else he's doomed to a life of beating women and drinking 40s of Olde English malt liquor in a rusty metal lawn chair sitting next to his delapidated mobile home.
Andrew is 4 years older than Megan...when she was born I told Andrew "this is Your baby ... Its up to you to protect her". They watched each others backs and I never heard of one tossing the other under the bus. Bullies are to be hunted down and beat...repeatedly
Another wife-beater in the making.
Please give your boy a pat on the back from me. He's a great big brother.
That was very good and clever from the big boy to protect his little sister. He went straight to the bully without a second thought, he is a good boy, that is the most important. In the process little Daughter has learn to stand for herself. Good for both of them.
That's so sad. How great he tried to protect his sister. You did a great job bringing him up.
Damn bullies. You do wonder what will become of them.
Small Sprog is having a hard time at school to right now. :(
My daughter was having the same sort of problems with a boy in her class. After 2 or 3 go rounds with the school not doing anything about it, her daddy taught he the places to hit the boy to make it count.
A couple of weeks ago, he went out of his way to cross the room and snatch her chair out from under her. When she got up, she mopped to floor with his head.
A teacher saw the whole incident (but didn't intervene). When the fur quit flying, the boy was suspended for 5 days. Fortunately for the principal, she didn't see the need to suspend my kid.
Saved my BP from going up.
It never fails to amaze me how much the teachers miss. Bullying and fighting go unnoticed, but teachers end up making a big deal out of really minor stuff. My friend's son got in trouble for talking too loud in the hallway between classes. But when there was a kid threatening to bring a gun to school, the staff wasted their energy trying to convince parents not to keep their kids at home the next day.
You're right...he's a sociopath waiting to happen. And kudos to you for making your daughter address the teacher about this instead of doing it for her.
My son was bullied and NOTHING was done about it because his teacher didn't like him OR me (I think it was my tattoos and his earrings)
Good brother.
Bad bully.
Good daughter for having the courage to go back and tell the truth in the face of fear.
Bless her heart and bless his too. She must have been so frightened to throw her big brother under the bus like that. But, she also trusted him to not hurt her for it. And I guess the whole thing was a slap in the face for your son. I hope he managed to see things from her point of view. It's just not always easy for kiddos.
Jennifer
OH! I think your son is a hero too by the way. Very manly of him to stand up for his sister.
Jen Again
He's a TIT - Thug in Training...
Little shits.
My kid was tormented in 8th grade. Nothing we did would make the school do anything. She took matters into her own hands and flattened the kid at lunch. She stood 5'1" and about 100 pounds, HE stood about 5'9" anbout 130? Unfortunately both got suspended and ended up in court. At the hearing the judge freaked on the boy, and ripped him a new asshole.
No fine for MY kid:)......still pissed at the school, but she will soon be out of there, thank God! Good part of the story is she has never been bothered again...by anybody:)
Now I know why we homeschool... I am glad she made it right though with her big brother.. He will remember that for the rest of his life now though.
1. It's just good to know that your daughter wasn't physically hurt, but it's so good your son showed his sister that, when needed, she can count on his support.
2. Although it must have been difficult for her, good that she went back and told the truth to the teacher.
3. The best part is that your children trust you so much and now are trusting each other.....as a family.
The Family Hammer is in very good shape with you at the helm. May God grant you all a safe and happy weekend and to Mrs. Hammer......A Very Happy Mother's Day!
My heart goes out to parents now a days.. even tho I am just one generation off.. It seems to be a time of woe in the schools these days... Strength to you and to all teachers, their job is one that I could not handle~~
That kid just moved in next door to me! Only he's 40 now. He's always pissed because no one in the neighborhood will listen to his bullshit or do what he wants.
Your son is a hero!
It's creepy how bad parents will reinforce the bad behaviour of their children. Glad your girl stepped up and did the right thing. I'm sure it was good for her, and it validated her brother's actions defending her. Sorry you have to deal with that bullshit, though.
we'll be seeing him on the 10 o'clock news pretty soon, being tried as an adult. maybe.
omg, JUST LAST WEEK, I was driving back home with my carpool full of kids and saw a 4th grader I've known since kindergarten from volunteering at school and field trips and such. He was bleeding perfusely from the head. He was hit in the head with a rock by a group of bullys that were harrassing him while walking home from school. It was a blood bath. I was so shaken by the site and had to remind myself to "act" calm for him.
The bully might have been suspended from school, or been in "alternative placement" for the week...and his mother might be required to walk him to and from...
(punishment for the mome)
I had 2 little psychos the last year I taught and they even knocked me down and the district would do NOTHING. Many times, the teacher's hands are tied.
That's a sad story. Sorry for your kids having to deal with it, but that's life in the big city. Those sorts of bullies can always be traced back to parents. It's like watching the Dog Wisperer. It's always the owners that make a dog bad. You did good, and I'm glad it ended up the way it did.
This sort of crap makes me soooooo angry. I have always been the first one to bust my son and I have NO patience for bullying. Wish every parent thought that way eh?
Had a nephew that bullied my daughter. His mother was from the "never-discipline" school. Literally.
Example: Family gathering on 4 July. He's spraying adults with the hose. Mom told him to stop at least 10 times. I pinched off the hose. He looked at the nozzle, I let 'er fly, so he blasted himself in the face. He dropped the hose, then ran to Mommy, crying. She lit into ME.
He pulled the girl off his tractor by her (long) hair, then proceeded to kick her in the face. I swear, we all thought she'd have permanent scarring-it was horrible. Mom did nothing.
I taught her to defend herself. The next time he grabbed her hair, she elbowed him in the face and broke his nose. Mom spanked her. Had I been there, she'd have needed hospital care, but alas I was not. I DID make it clear that the next time she touched my kid, she'd wish she hadn't. He never messed with the girl again -- all she had to do was growl and he'd cry.
I hate bullies.
DD
Extracting the truth can be a painful procedure for both parent and child alike.
Cheers
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