Losing friends, growing apart and unfortunate circumstances.
This well thought out post from Phoenix Ravenflame about a close friend who has grown distant and uncompromising reminds me of a similar situation.
The same thing happened to me. Except my best friend found religion.
He went from hell bent athiest to fire and brimstone born again in a matter of weeks because he is weak willed and susceptible to charismatic people. His previous heroes were a Charles Manson guy and a nut job KKK preacher on AM radio. Needless to say, I didn't take much stock in his sudden conversion. I'd seen it all before. Problem was, this time there was pussy involved. She was pushing for him to become Christian and withholding sex for religious reasons after being his frequent cum dumpster for over year.
After he found this strange charismatic cult, I became his first project.
All he wanted to do was quote bible verses and convert me. He would speak of nothing else. Well except getting me to sign up for some multi level marketing scheme, which is just as bad as being a raving cultist lunatic in my opinion.
I made it clear that I was happy with my spirituality, but he would not accept my decision. His religion would not allow him to associate with the non saved. So we parted ways 10 years ago after being best friends for 15 years.
This was a very sad time for me, as I make a few close friends and that's it. Why do I have to become someone who waves my hands in the air, loudly praising Jesus, and try to convert everyone I meet with Amway and Christ?
I have devout Christian friends and acquaintances and they have never bothered me. They have lives and can carry on a conversation that doesn't praise the lord every other sentence. Therefore, I don't think his faith was the issue.
I recently ran into his brother and asked him to get my Phone# and Email to my former friend but that was a year ago. So I guess life goes on.
Labels: Personal interest, Society
posted by Bill Rowland @ December 09, 2006
12 Comments
12 Comments:
About the time I got to "pussy involved", I started wondering if you were using your new html skills for these links.
While it sucks that these things happen, it helps a little to know other people have gone through it, too. I really was worried that maybe I was the one being unreasonable. That's why I called my mom to ask if this was a sign that I'm mentally out-of-whack. Apparently, I'm not... I'm whacked just fine.
LOL.... If I had wanted to convert back to being a consumerist catholic last summer I could have got some great pussy. It's just not in though.
My good friend and next door neighbor went through a transformation after getting hooked up with some church that promotes hatred of gays and non - Christians. I watched this lovely woman turn from a compassionate caring soul to the bitch from hell within weeks. It was incredibly painful to watch plus I was deemed unworthy all of a sudden in her eyes as a person. Fortunately they moved but I feel the loss of the kind person that once existed before the brainwashing occurred.
Time sure does change people.
somebody doin' a bit of google trolling?
Or hotmail practice?
I gotta learn that linky thingy
Does it hurt?
Hammer, this reminds me of one of the Volumes in the Dune Series of SF books. There is a religious group of female priests/prostitutes that recruit converts through sex. What I'd like to know is, will the religious fervor still be there when the sex no longer thrills?
My dad was a born-again, not as bad as your friend but did drop Jesus name every other sentence. He went through a phase of trying to convert us but it did pass. It sucks you lost a friend over it.
I have been born only once ... Maybe that's why I am so old...Heh??
This is a touching story. I have said my goodbyes to many friends and people in my life - Sometimes the distance, sometimes circumstances. Such is life, and all we can do is move along with the flow.
Your friend fell in with a sect of Christianity that uses the threat of eternal damnation if you break any of the largely man-made rules. It's a very scary place to be. I was there briefly myself until they blamed our lack of finances on the fact that we did not tithe. We were on welfare at the time because my husband was in danger of a heart attack and with 3 kids under five and few skills, it made no sense for me to even consider finding a job to support us. They also blamed his heart problems on his "secret" sin that he must have or he would be healthy. When I asked the pastor to please take my husband out for coffee because he was going stir crazy stuck at home, he suggested I take him to a mall and go window shopping for enjoyment. Can you imagine? My husband couldn't walk the length of the house and we did not need the temptation to spend money we didn't have.
Get your other Christian friends to pray for him. The poor guy really needs help.
Friends who changes due to circumstances is understandable. Friends who change and expect their friends to change too are just too much...
Thanks all for your comments. It's one of those things you don't wish on anyone.
I guess this sort of thing happens more than I realized.
When I see those news shows that interview distraught families that are trying to contact a brother or daughter that was taken in by a cult. I truely empathize because the victims lose themselves and can rarely be brought back. It's almost like watching someone die.
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