Hammer keeps his temper sort of.
Ms Sweetpants is a 20 something, ultra bubbly, blond haired, blue eyed , kind of plump woman but not unattractive. Always extra sweetsy and nice even when she doesn't mean it.
I went to my oldest daughter's parent teacher conference today. Her teacher had told us the third week of school that she recommended holding my daughter back.
Third week? What the fuck?
We told Ms Sweetpants that we didn't agree with retention and how the hell can she recommend holding her back when the school year had barely started.
We got my daughter extra help right then, tutoring, extra reading, homework, a special reading teacher etc...
My daughter went from barely knowing her letters, to surpassing G reading level with the rest of the class, despite a severe speech impediment that makes sounding out words difficult or impossible .
We were assured by her speech pathologist and her special education teacher that my daughter was progressing at a phenomenal rate and almost ready to be mainstreamed.
We went into the conference room with Ms Sweetpants, the special Education teacher and the speech pathologist. Then the principal walks in...
I thought, Oh shit here we go...
They start off the meeting with the Special ed teacher and speech pathologist going on and on about my daughters fantastic progress and how they've never seen someone catch up so fast.
Things went downhill after that.
Ms Sweetpants: "Yes Yes we all love her and she has made progress but my TPR report shows her regressing and she actually knows less than before.
My wife: "you were supposed to test her with the speech pathologist present as we agreed. Did you do that?
Ms Sweetpants "Uh well no but that doesn't matter" She began to look annoyed.
Ms Sweetpants: "Your daughter is no where near the development of the other children and I have to recommend that she repeat the first grade."
I felt my blood pressure rising and my palms began to sweat.
My wife was still doing all the talking.
Wife: We think retention is wrong for our daughter, she is making fantastic progress and holding her back will crush her for no good reason. What is repeating the same lessons all over again going to do for her?
Ms Sweet pants dropped all pretense of niceness and brought out her claws.
Ms Sweetpants: "Your daughter is failing the first grade! I see her six hours a day and I know what's best!"
I was taken aback by the sweetsy nicey teacher, probably ten years younger than me, raising her voice to us. I glanced at the principal who I know to be decent and she had no reaction.
I felt my blood boiling. I slapped my hand on the table and brought out my booming projection voice,
Hammer: "OK LETS CUT TO THE CHASE, ARE YOU FORCING MY DAUGHTER TO REPEAT THE FIRST GRADE? BECAUSE IF NOT, THIS CONVERSATION IS OVER"
Ms Sweetpants got louder and redder.
Ms Sweetpants: I recommend in my professional opinion that your daughter be held back. I am a professional and I know what's best for your child!
Wife: "She is our daughter and WE know what's best. Holding her back isn't it!"
Hammer: We had the exact same conversation three years ago about my son failing first grade and now my son is a star student.
Ms Sweetpants "WE DON'T COMPARE CHILDREN HERE!"
Hammer: You all were wrong about him, You're wrong about my daughter too...
Ms Sweetpants: Your son is Completely different!
Hammer: You were still wrong...
Principal: Make a note for the record that the parents don't agree with the teachers assessment and the student will proceed to the second grade with all the same services in place.
Hammer: Thank you.
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Ms Sweetpants: You DO KNOW that even if she goes on to second grade she will fail eventually and will have to be held back. I hope YOU realize that..
Hammer: No she won't, I won't allow it, I'm going to make her successful.
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Ms Sweetpants, Well I'm just telling you my professional opinion.
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Hammer: You know what they say about opinions...
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Wife: Uh (insert nervous laughter) lets go.
The special education teacher stopped us in the hall and told us that as soon as she found out Ms Sweet pants was failing our daughter that she had gone to the principal.
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She told the principal that Ms Sweetpants was full of shit and my daughter should be promoted to the next grade.
I'm glad Ms Sweetpants showed her ass in front of the principal.
God I hate public schools.
posted by Bill Rowland @ April 26, 2007
60 Comments
60 Comments:
Wow, that was a whole lot of excitement for a parent/teacher conference. At least the Principal is level headed and could recognize the teachers errors. Hopefully since she's young, she's not tenured yet...then they can fire her fine ass!
wow. Maybe that teacher doesn't have her tenure yet and they will get rid of her. Holy hell I don't know if I could have been that nice. Good job for not slapping her.
I went through the whole speech thing when I was a kid in public school. The whole event combined with everything else was horrible. I sincerely hope your daughter does well and when she does...
Find miss asshole teacher and rub it in her face lol
I know. She'd be much better off in a Christian Academy. singing....((("Onward Christian Soldiers"))) and saying "One Nation Under God". It did wonders for me.
Been down that very same road last year Hammer. The school wanted Jeremy to repeat Kindergarden. We stuck to our guns and refused to hold our son back and this year he's doing great...an A,B student.
Hehehe..."you know what they say about opinions..."
Been there myself. Good thing my dad's a retired teacher of 35 years. he still has some clout. lol
I can't believe you have managed to infuse a little humor into what was such an intense, blecky situation. Damn the Sweetpants.
The way you defend the parents' right to know what's right for their kids is amazing.
They are doing that to my nephew too. He is in kindergarten and he knows it. His self esteem is already getting to him. They say that he isn't socially mature enough to go to the first grade but he can pass all of the tests.
I'm glad you stuck to your guns, Hammer.
Hammer, Hammer, Yikes.. I know how you feel when you go to these parent teacher meetings. Kora has had some problems and I noitced them when she was three right after we had Bri. I asked the dr one day and he told me to go to the nearest school and talk to the speech therapist and then I was transferred all around town till we found the right place. Then she went into preschool and boy did shit hit the fans with that one. I knew Kora had problems but come on. Well it wasnt too bad but now that shes in kindergarten they keep trying to tell me she has all these problems at school and when we do have parent teacher conferences i hate going really. They are going to tell Me Kora has this or that going on and shes not doing well. Well at home shes doing fine. I have thought more than once this year pulling her out of the public school system. I think we will in a few years if things dont get better for her and just home school Bri too when she gets to school age. I hope next year goes better for you and keep up the good work with her. CHEERS DAUGHTER.
Your daughter is lucky to have you.
OH BOY, your conference sounds so familiar! In our case NOBODY had a plan in place for our son, even though we had asked for one for 6 weeks! The only person on our side was the school nurse, who voluntarily came to our conferences to advocate for our son.
I LOVE how the bottom line is ALWAYS "We know what's best for your child". This implies that all parents are ignorant and don't spend time with their kids.
Hang in there, you're doing the right thing!
Its because they take out money with threats of force via tax and make us use the services we may or may not want ...
Teachers can be such dicks. They like to think they know better than everyone else. My son's gr 4 teacher actually stated that he was not university material. In grade 4! What an ass. I know a lot of people who can't stand teachers.
Hammer, I found the arrogance of Miss Sweetpants disturbing. Usually this type of arrogance is associated with the medical profession. I have had much experience with doctors who won't listen to their patients. Professional arrogance is a personality disorder. It's the professionals that need help.
She's the kind of idiot teacher I fear my child getting in school.
My older sister used to have an assistant principal who singled her out for punishment constantly. One day my Dad had a conference with the guy. He told him, quite politely, "If my daughter gets sent home for bullshit reasons ONCE MORE, you're going to jail."
"What for?" asked the incredulous AP.
"For fighting," said Dad calmly.
"I'm not fighting anyone!" huffed the teacher.
"You will, or you'll tote a serious ass-whipping," replied Dad. "Because if you don't lay off my daughter, I'm coming back."
In this country no one gets 'held back' anymore - that went out YEARS ago! They decided - and for ONCE a great decision - that social development was just as important for youngsters and moving them on with their peers was the right thing to do. We have lots of Teacher Aides who work one-on-one with kids if necessary, speech therapists, reading teachers etc etc. It's STILL not enough half the time, but you are ABSOLUTELY right, being held back is DEFINITELY NOT the answer!!
Good on you and your wife for sticking to your guns (excuse the pun!!;)!!!! You damn-well have to FIGHT for your kids these days!
Sweetpants will come a-crashin' down one of these days, I'm sure! =)
I've had conferences like that when my sons were younger.. they are now 14 and 15 year old honor students. I'll be damned if anyone is ever going to claim to know one of my kids better then I do.
I'm so glad you stood up to Ms. Sweetpants, the nervy bitch.
Jenny: this teacher is supposedly the star of the school. Scary huh?
snowmanpoop: I can't wait till my straight A daughter rubs it in her face.
paul: we looked at private schools like motessorri and those people were nuttier than a fruitcake. parochial schools are supposedly top notch here but religion isn't my bag.
mrsjosegoldbloom: exactly I can't wait to show that witch.
dazd: I want some clout! ;)
jocelyn: I didn't feel funny when I said it but looking back it was kinda funny ;)
carrie: I don't know what the hell they want from these 5 and 6 year olds these days. It's crazy.
Tweety: It's strange how everything is the kid's problem. I know they can be a handful but they need to outline specifics and work with parents instead of against them.
tysgirl: thank you :)
tshsmom: Yes, they are so adamant about being right that the kids get lost in their arrogance.
mutley: I agree 100% is schools were free enterprise the "customer" would have the ultimate power. Right now it's a big corrupt mess. Like most government entities.
jeannie: they did the same to me. My 7th grade teacher made a descison that follwed me all the way to college and put me a year behind everyone else.
lexcen: People in positions of power often become megalomaniacs and lose sight of what is important.
AD: Damn, You have a badass dad, I'll be the same way if this crap keeps up.
KB: I'm sure there are certain instances where a child can repeat if everyone agrees. But I think it would be beneficial to get them the help they need like I'm trying to do. The school just want to take the easy way out.
groovy: I was the same way, conferences up the ass with them telling my parents I was lazy and worthless. By highschool I was on the honor roll every semester.
I had one of those conferences once for my youngest son. Three women, all with their stern looking faces trying to tell me how grave the situation was. There was no doubt that said son was doomed to failure and needed to be held back. After cajoling them for as long as I could I looked them square in the eyes and told them if they held him back I'd have all teir jobs in the course of a week. They scoffed at me, until I told them that the ex may have moved to another state and I was a single parent, but I was still on good terms with her father and he worked for the Governor and I think a two minute phone call might do it. The incredulous look on their faces told me all I needed to know. Don't fuck with a guy in blue jeans and work boots. He ain't as dumb as he may appear. Said son is now making A's and B's in college and can do anything in IT in the blink of an eye. Sorry this was long, Hammer, but it struck a nerve.
i dunno what y'all call it back home, but up here they call it: dickthumping
it don't matter that she don't have one.
Look up: IEP Individualized (als?) Educatial Plan
It will tell you what your rights are as a parent, you hold 1/3 of the reigns, and Ms. Sweetpants, she tried to bluff you into thinking her dick was bigger.
I'd send you a link, but too hung over just now.
Evil woman deserved it. I had a few of those in my past. "I know what's best..." "Your kid/you don't know what's best because you're not objective enough..."
Why is it the nasty stubborn ones instead of the good stubborn ones who always get their way?
And I'm glad that the other teachers know the lady's full of shit.
- ISU Tinkerer
kUCkeD OwN foNiCKs WuRKeD 4 Mi !!!
How can any Educator know over and above what the Parents and a Professional Speech Pathologist know is best for a child?
You'er a BALLsy-Peen Hammer! GREAT JOB for sticking up for your Children They are fortunate to have You and Mrs.Hammer as their PARENTS!
Tenure, hey, don't fucking get me started.
Those kids aren't going to learn much in school anyway, compared to what they will learn after they enter real life.
All they really need there is the basics. I dropped out of school and did just fine.
Public school is not gonna happen for my kids. Thanks for reason number 4,333 as to why I believe this way.
Hammer,
My sister repeated 3rd grade, and I think it permanently stunted her. She just quit trying after that.
Good for you for sticking to your guns!
You won quote of the day Hands down..
Galactic: You have me convinced and after hearing all these stories from these fine folks I'm sure that I didn't make a mistake.
My dad knows the govenor, I should have pulled that card.
infini: We are doing IEP and they are still bullying or trying to.
ISU I would hate to see how they run over weak minded parents.
john mcelveen: thanks for stopping by and your kind words of support.
BBC: correct, and the wife and I will be happy when they learn to read write and do math, but I'll be damned if some government stooge is going to tell me my daughter is stupid and can't do the work.
madz I homeschooled for 3 years, hard but rewarding. I succombed to public school because it was supposedly one of the best in the state, and still is sort of.
jerry: thanks for stopping by, yeah I saw held back kids turn into dropouts and criminals, no way I was going to let that happen.
hi, i am back
if your daughter has an IEP
then you as parents should be made aware of EVERY meeting that is held to discuss your daughter's education, and...educational plan.
It is part of the law.
and a lot of teachers do not follow it, because a lot of parents do not know about it and the teachers think they know best.
The special ed teacher knows it i bet, and that's why she said something to you... she also knows that everyone assumes that you are declining to be at these meetings, all the way up to the point that your daughter is held back.
On paper, it looks like you are declining to attend, not that you were never informed, this is what I was trying to say about your rights as a parent with the IEP. The plan is revised or reviewed more than once in a school year, (1)the teacher/social worker (2)the parent and the (3)the student comprise the 3 equal elements of the team. Technically, they should actually be asking your daughter what it is that SHE wants, but if she is too young, they are supposed to defer to you. If you decline to show up, they get to decide for themselves.
(I just took a class on the policies of IEP about a year and a half ago)
Ms. Sweetpants is showing prejudice, and the law says she should be showing respect. The law was actually written because of people like her.
If you had the specific citation, it may be better to spit that in her face next time, and follow it with,
"This conversation is over, anything else you may have to say; say it to my attorney."
But that's just how I would play it.
oh, i was writing as you were responding, OK, well so if she has an IEP, then maybe you are made aware and attend these meetings, I should look back and see if I have a PDF to send you on it. The thing I remember from the IEP unit was that many parents do not know how much power they have because the administration does not want them to know.
For example, if your daughter needs something, and the school does not have it... speech pathologist for example, they cannot say: sorry, you will have to pay for your own speech pathologist, we are not set up for that here... they MUST go and get one, the law requires it. BUT many schools do not comply because that is costly and a pain in the ass for them , and if the parents do not know, might as well make them pay for it...
Same goes for the testing of your daughter without her speech pathologist. That is some BULLSHIT. and you could get an attorney if you wanted to on those grounds alone. They absolutely cannot bully you, there are laws that say so, and Hammer, they are being revised all the time, to be better, more specific laws that clearly state the rights and opportunities for kids with IEP's.
You have Ms. Sweetpants, by the balls, so to speak, should you care to squeeze.
She has been breaking the law.
Infini: We've been through all this with my son and they've been really good with him, now we see they are pullin the shit, thanks for the heads up.
The speech teacher is on our side but is an abused woman who won't stand up or make waves. She's good with the girls though.
I'm pissed. but luckily we pushed the right buttons and headed off the sweetypants.
I amy be asking you more stuff in september.
this statement says it all:
it proves your power, shows that the principal is covering his/her ass, and makes my point about what's "on the record"
Make a note for the record that the parents don't agree with the teachers assessment and the student will proceed to the second grade with all the same services in place.
If you had said, "I want my daughter to have a trained monkey as part of her services", that would have been part of the above statement, but since you did not ASK for a trained monkey, 'all the same services are in place'...
see how it works?
infini: thanks again, we sometimes forget that no one has their best interest in mind save ourselves.
The teacher is entering "C" word territory.
I applaud your patience. I wouldn't have been as kind to Ms dumbass.
It a power-game ... Ohhh, I'm soooo glad I don't have small children these days ... And I'm glad I quit my job as a teacher.
It was these things and all other dirty thigs that took place among teachers and school administration that made me to quit with the words: "I educated myself to CARE for children...Not to destroy them. If that is what you want to do, you have to do it without me."
I left and never went back ...
Hammer, I think you handled it well. Your wife also. I would have run over her with my car.
I haven't had good experiences with teachers either, and my kids have always made straight a's.
Teachers don't live in the "real" world. If they did, they'd get that fucking cocky "I know what's best" attitude beat out of them...
I don't mean all teachers. I think a lot of them are excellent. I just no longer think the excellent ones are in the majority.
gunny: I warned the wife I was going to go off but then I remembered daughter is going to be in her class for another month and didn't want retribution taken out on her.
kirsten: Some of these educators are indeed in a power game. I remember the abuse I took from teachers that wanted to to be all powerful and be one of the "cool kids"
melodyann: My son has an excellent teacher now but his first two were colt, mean and heartless. I don't know why people like that get into the profession.
Your daughter is very lucky she has parents who will fight for her and get her the help she needs. Someday she'll realize that. I wish her all the best and I'm looking forward to her proving that teacher was wrong.
Man oh man Im glad I wasn't the only parent that was refered to as "oh no here SHE comes". With 5 kids in a VERY tiny country school Im sure that's what I was refered to many times. I did love the one on one education my kiddos got , but at times it was so trying when the "big city" specialists would come to call. At one point I had to put my foot down when they wanted to split up the twins when they suggested holding boy twin back in 2nd grade. No way was I going to allow that. All turned out well and he is now in upper management at a very large well known computer company. Sometimes the parent DOES know best! ^5 and WTG on stepping in....
omgggg is all I can say. I am so riled by what happened that I can't even read the other comments right now. From a mom that has 2 children with a learning disability,I say WTGGGGGGGGG I am so proud of you for standing up to that teacher. I have had the reverse problem up here in Canada. My son has severe ADHD and he has been very far behind his class. By the time he got to Grade 4, I ASKED to school to hold him back to give him a chance to get a grasp of things a bit better but they refused. They KNEW how badly he was doing, but they do NOT fail any child here. Now in principal that is a good system, but by the time my son was in Grade 5 he was still reading at a kingergarten level and was only doing that because of me!! If there is any advice I would give any parent that has a children struggling in school is to go into every interview with both guns blazing (forgive the pun). If the teacher wants to be on your side and help that is great, if not then don't be afraid to scream and yell and show them you mean business. It took me a few years to learn it, but man oh man the school knows now not to dare mess with my kids or they hear the ground shake when I come a runnin'..lol. Sorry to rant so long..keep up the good work!!!
Wow. Infini moreorless covered what I wanted to say. Attorneys are out there, whose practice focuses exclusively in special education law to help you with this kind of thing. If the fees are too much, look into Advocacy, Inc. (It's in our state, they have offices in several different cities.) They can help. Before this is all said and done, you may need someone else's "professional opinion" in your corner.
Good luck!
Hammer, our son was held back in 8th grade because he was not quite mature enough to become a freshman. He just barely squeaked by in passing the eighth grade, but no way was he ready to advance. It has turned out to be the best thing for him. You'll notice those last two words, for him? He has become a much better student, A's and B's, and is much more mature now, He's 18, a junior, and a member of the volunteer fire department.
That being said, I think you did absolutely the best thing in defying that dumb@$s teacher. As everyone else has been saying, read up on IEP's and Special Education law. We are in a different position, with my wife being a teacher, and having a special ed. daughter, and having a cousin trained and educated in special education. we are in an enviable position of being well-informed about what can and cannot be done. I just sit back and let my wife and cousin go to town. B-)>
Hammer,
I have to say, you made me want to kill that nasty little bitch.
Ms. Sweetpants only wants to teach the easy kids. Shame on her and bravo for standing up to her. She is obviously not a parent, to think that six hours, five days a week gives her sufficient insight into your daughter.
oh man! this would have pissed me OFF! I think you handled it better than I would have.
You know what I find crazy? In California they are passing children who can't even speak English! these kids are making through High School with speaking English and they were going to fail your daughter who is making progress.
Something is seriously wrong with our public school system. I'm terrified of the day I have to put my daughter into an overcrowded school with a teacher who could give a damn.....I'm terrified!!
You've heard me talk about my son before. He has always been one grade level behind in reading. And he entered IEP. Last year, he had the worst teacher imaginable. He then got two years behind in reading and has to take IEP for reading, math, writing and social skills. If people don't think the teachers are impressionable, just see how much that put him back.
Me and my husband go to every single IEP meeting and I even ask for a few. They try to tell me we are out of time, but I get in their face and go...I'm not done talking to you yet, maybe you should block out more time. They have all been great and stayed and talked with me.
They never ever have considered leaving him behind. They said they have learning implements with IEP that will help him with each and every step of the way. Thank god, cuz I was worried about his transition into middle school next year. If you have any questions about IEP, or legally what some of the federal laws are about that. I've been dealing with this for almost 6 years now.
I'm very relieved that our school and school community seem to be dedicated to helping those children that are really trying hard, and the parents that back them 100%. They told me he would never be left or held back just because of his reading or poor math skills that they are helping with.
Janet: I was tempted to clue in daughter that teacher might not have her best interests in mind, but I think that might be too heavy for her to handle. I'm sure she'll realize when she gets a good teacher.
Cheesy: It seems that most everyone who has kids has a teacher hold back story to tell. I never knew it was so rampant. Maybe it's some kind of scam to keep funds coming to the school..
Sorry you had to go through it too.
canadian flake: my son has ADHD as well and they treated him like shit once we had to get him special services. We kicked asses for him too. I just can't believe how awful and petty people can be to children who are under their care.
marianne: thanks, I hope it never reaches that point. They have mediators for conflicts but I guess that is for extreme situations.
walrilla: I'm going to have to go to law school to learn all these things ;) I guess to have rights we have to know them first..and no one at the school is offering.
madZ: Growing up, I suffered under her ilk. It's nice to be an adult and be able to fight back.
kat: I've seen sweetpants darlings of the classroom, they get special attention and all look like her. I know all teachers have favorites but I wish they would stand up for the underdog once in a while instead fawning over the "easy kids"
She is prejudiced.
race
age
sex
or
disability
I think it's the speech impediment, she must be annoyed at that. I have seen it before.
Let's just hope that once your daughter is grown up, and a neurosurgeon, and Sweetpants needs brain surgery, (lobotomy is more like it) she (Sweetpants) has moment to pause and realize her mistake, and take stock of her personality flaws in the past, here in this moment.
You have probably already delved into this, but Texas takes the "No Child left behind" thing quite seriously.... however, you really have to dig to find out what your rights as a parent are.
Public schools leave a lot to be desired, especially inner city schools.
I have lots of information on how to mount a case against your school board... let me know, I'll send it all to you.
We aquired a lot of this information from another lady that was in a similar situation to you....
Send your daughter to a Naperville Elementary school. Why? No body repeats 1st or 2nd grade here. (Almost verbatum from my daughter's teacher,"No one fails 2nd grade, everyone goes to 3rd. This was from our last parent teacher conference.)
My daughter for some reason (moi maybe? Geesh I'll have to stop calling her the AntiChrist) is having problems in reading. We are paying $2,100 for an outside tutoring program.
take Ryan up on his offer.
I'll never forget the moment my mom and dad came to me, bent down to look into my eyes and asked me if I wanted to repeat the first grade. I didn't, but they bought what the "experts' told them, and I was fucked from then on. Bravo to you and your wife.
This is why I think it's worth the money I shell out for my son to attend private school.
uh, don't lump all public education or teachers in the poo pile please. It'd be like lumping all gun carriers in the same pile eh?
Ms S sounds like an idiot. I hate it when people make those kinds of statements about knowing best when it's not their child.
In my teaching experience (wasn't always an art teacher). I've seen kids who have had teachers say they should stay back and they do and it does nothing for them. I've seen kids who have had teachers say they should stay back and the parents refuse and the kid is now drowning and feeling like they are the dumbest person in the grade (because well, they really ARE that behind). I've seen kids skip grades and fail and others skip grades and do wonderfully.
I guess the point is - every child is different and I've seen so many kids succeed and about 90% of those that succeed do so because of supporting classwork at home (or things like letters, sounds etc etc). You did right getting your child the help she needed and it's good that you're going to work with her to help her succeed. I *know* that homework will make and break children. I *know* that supportive parents will lift their children up. I also *know* that when a parent bags the teacher in front of the child then you've lost that child. Even if you hate this teacher don't let your child know that - because why would your child do ANY work for a teacher that their parent has no respect for? It's like ANYTHING you have success in - you have to practice.
As for private schools - there is a reason why they get the results they do.
1) they EXPECT their parents to work with their children and because the parents pay so much money that means they also have the money to afford tutors etc. This makes a huge difference. I fully agree with this way to do things.
2) A child isn't up to scratch in a private school you can BET they will do anything in their power to either get rid of the child by pressuring parents in a not so nice way OR more often they have aptitude tests in the first place that say that children have to be at a certain standard before they even allow children in there.
Private schools are not necessarily the answer. They pick and choose - not necessarily teach better.
Ryan: They've laid off for now and everthing seems to be going our way, we'll see what happens next year.
FHB: My parents were the exact same way, luckily we moved so often that I didn't get held back.
larry: I went to private schools too but it didn't help, the ones around here want 1300 per month and will not take anyone with a disabilaty or any kind of behavior other than perfect.
M: Very good points. I'm not lumping all teachers at all. My son has had two fantastic home room teachers and two phenomenal special ed teachers who went to bat for us every time.
I'm lucky to be able to work with my daughter and that her special ed teachers were on our side.
I agree some kids cannot be moved on to the next grade and every case is different.
Thanks for bringing a teachers perspective.
Hate that you guys had to go through all of that. But keep up the good work. Modern teachers are taught that they know what's best, that parents can't make that call. Scary stuff.
I remember in the late 80s when we lived in the Dallas area, there was a big hullabaloo going on about home schooling, the teacher's association wanted NO homeschooling in Texas, and the then leutenant governor, I think his name was Maddox or something like that, said, "Ultimately, your children belong to the state of Texas." People totally freaked when he said that. Our daughters were tiny then and wouldn't be in school for a few years yet, but it was scary thinking that the powers that be felt that way.
Good for you and the Mrs for going to the mat for your daughter. And Ms. Sweetpants sounds like a fucking whore. No wonder schools are so sorry these days.
Jesus Christ. I would so revert back to my highschool practice of egging my teacher's house, after that conversation.
Good on you for standing up to her.
i had a similar experience with my oldest boy who his teachert hought had hearing deficits.
she wanted him tested.
i did a test of my own.
i called my boy when he wasn`t looking or prepared to be called.
he turned and looked at me in a normal way.
i realised at that point that my child had just tuned the bitch out.
bless him.
I know I live in California so take this with a grain of salt...but you need to threaten to sue. You also need to let folks know that you will not stand for her not being held to rigorous expectations for the rest of this school year. Teachers love to retain kids because then they don't have to do sh*t with them for the rest of the year...they figure the next teacher will have to pick up the slack so why stress out over it. Oh this makes me SO darn mad!
Teachers love to retain kids because then they don't have to do sh*t with them for the rest of the year...they figure the next teacher will have to pick up the slack so why stress out over it.
This is a completely ridiculous, ignorant and uninformed statement!
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