Sunday morning at the pool hall

When my family first moved to Texas when I was twelve, things were a little rough. My dad had sold his car repair business and tried to start a fitness center. It seemed like things were going ok, when all the sudden we were moving in the middle of the night and my parents were talking about bankruptcy.
We ended up driving to Texas with a 1974 Dodge Dart, and a U-haul full of all our shit. My dad had scouted out for a rental house and a job the week before so we were supposedly all set.
We ended up spending a week in a holiday inn because the house my dad had picked out was one step away from being condemned. My mom was being pretty difficult about the whole situation.
Finally, we moved into a little shithole crackerbox house in a working class neighborhood. We immediately started cleaning the place. It was infested with roaches so big and tough that a size twelve combat boot just bounced off their armor shell. Lets just say, they ate Raid spray for breakfast.
My mom had thrown away everything that I owned when I was away that summer, so all I had was a mattress on the floor, a few clothes and some toys my grandmother had given me. I was used to it because every time she got mad about something she would put everything I owned in the trash. It seemed to work out. I never got attached to possessions or asked for anything and learned that material things were transitory at best..
I aways kept a tally of whatever they took from me so I could steal it back later. Seemed to work out ok. Hehehe.
My mom was really off the deep end from the stress of a new city, a shit house and new job so making everyone's life miserable her way to cope.
Me and dad were in the same boat dealing with mom's conniption fits and thankfully he began taking me out with him in the evenings and on weekends.
We found a large pool hall in the middle of town that had free games all day Sunday but you had to buy eight dollars worth of drinks. No problem..I would drink soda and my dad would get a pitcher of beer.
He taught me to play pool and we would spend the whole day talking cool father son stuff, I got to be pretty good at eight ball and the cocktail waitresses were not bad at all.
We spent a few nights each week riding to the billiards parlor on the back of his motorcycle and were regular fixtures just about every Sunday. We would play cut throat, nine ball and regular pool. If I had a little extra money there were some video games as well.
I look back fondly on those days. My dad and I relied on each other to retain our sanity in our fucked up household. We bonded pretty well. The pool hall is still there and once in a while he and I will go back and shoot a few games and talk about old times. He never went easy on me when I was a kid and he can still put back a couple of pitchers and kick my ass pretty good in a friendly game.
If it weren't for my dad and that diversion I don't think I would be where I am today.
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Good for your dad...I had a couple sanctuaries too. My sister was my biggest. Being older than me. Sometimes she could stop the manic mother from killing me. hehehhee
my mom "cleaned" from time to time too
set me up for the buddhist mindframe...
and if the dodge dart was green...oh no, wait, that was a chevy nova.... but was the pool hall "slick willie's" by chance? i seem to think we led similar childhoods.
Memories is the only values noone can take away...
That sounds so cool. I love having a game of pool every so often - I think I'm a little better at it when I've had a beer!! ;)
And I'm sure all of us who read your blog are very glad you are where (and who) you are today! Yay for DAD!!
COCKROACHES ARE PREHISTORIC!! You virtually have to dice them up or they'll just live on.....yucky things! (quite cool to look at though!!)
It was great that your Dad took you out with him when he escaped. I'm sure I'd have been pretty testy under the circumstances too though.
what a cool memory. I'm not that good at pool but I love chalking up the stick. Hey, I get my kicks where I can!
I'm without doubt the most useless pool player in the whole, wide world. But it's still fun, though:)
Sometimes what doesn't kill us makes us stronger...and defines who we are.
Things may not have been all rosey way back when - but your living proof that it wasn't all bad.... great post.
I'm honored and humbled to win the caption contest... I'll be dreaming up something for you to blog about. Be scared.
Cockroaches live for nine days after you cut their heads off.
Having parents that ignored me is what sent me out into the world to learn about life and make my own way.
I did okay I guess.
Somewhere between four and five beers I'm really good at pool. LOL
Three 7N7's and I'll kick your ass at pool... after 3 of them I'm an AWESOME player ... well I think so anyhow....hehehe
Just to stick up for your mom here- I think any woman who's husband messes up their finances, forcing them to pack up and move to a bug-infested shithole in another state has the right to be extremely bitchy until the situation is fixed. Just my opinion though ;)
Every once in a while I have to get rid of excess junk in our house too. We just can't keep up with it all. My son usually just seems pretty relieved that he doesn't have to clean his room for a while.
burfica: I'm glad you had a sanctuary too. It makes a big difference.
infinitesimal: The dart was maroon and the nova was tan. Slick willies gave us a hard time about me being a kid in there at night so we found a place where the owner was cool about it. Yeah it does sound like there are similar themes in our upbringing.
Kirsten: I'm glad I have them and hope to create some pleasant memories with my own kids.
KB: Everything goes better with a few beers :). Yep roaches are nasty little dinosaurs. yuck.
Jeannie: He's was a good parent that didn't realize he was parenting.
M: lol I like that too people say it's a freudian thing.
choo choo:
Even when I lost 99% of the games it was still fun.
Ryan: I can dig up some good memories now and then. Can't wait to see what you come up with.
BBC: 4 or 5 here too and it raises my bowling score by about 80 as well.
Cheesy: amazing how a little lubrication can bring out the best in us.
One Clever: My mom ran the finances and made all the decisions. Dad worshipped her and did whatever she said. When things went tits up, I think it was mom's idea to punish us because of her anger and depression. But it got me where I am today and I wouldn't change a thing :)
I can't wait to read One Clever Little Bitches kid's blog. They obviously inspire creative little bastards!
As usual, I find it hard to form a response, or comment. My upbringing was nothing like this, I've only seen this kind of stuff on TV and in movies. But for you it was real, so what can I say, you know?
I'm glad you've made lemonade out of the lemons, so to speak, back then AND now.
It just goes to show that we are products of our own environment and not all bad experiences produces bad results... I think you have weathered the storm of growing up and turned out not too bad...
I'm always threatening to 'clean' my kids' rooms and leave them only their beds and their clothes. I never do it, of course, but dayum, I wish they would clean their rooms!
I'm sorry you had a crazy Mama (I did too, but on a lesser scale), but I'm glad you made it through and are a good guy and a good dad.
My dad used to play pool with me...
Or, at least a pool cue was involved in some of his games. ;)
Steve~
Sounds like you didn't feel "disenfrachised" from poverty and resort to terrorism. Amazing how flawed the liberal argument that poverty is the root cause of all crime is when held under this scrutiny.
Shockingly, your financial struggles didn't turn you into a suicide bomber or child molester, huh?
JP: You ought to write for Leno :)
JAM: I was lucky in a way. my dad was raised with beatings, torture and drunken knife throwing, Mom was raised with a little too much freedom and not enough consequences
I got the product of their union.
Dave: my dad told me a pea that falls into a pile of shit still grows up to be a pea plant. that's how he explains his life and I guess to a lesser extent mine.
Contrary, I clean my kids rooms too. But I'm in there with them with three choices, keep, charity, trash. Surprisingly they are very generous with their choices.
Steven: I'm wondering if I want to read about that one...
MadZ: I knew you could pull an alternative lesson out of this ;)
Actually, I thought terrorism came from immoral spoiled rich kids, who like using islam on igorant peons to convince them strap bombs to themselves and do other stupid stuff. But yeah, rough times don't make rough people,they make strong people.
Hams - we've commented on this before, but our childhoods are uncannily familiar. The blessing out all of it is the relationship you have with your dad. I'm glad you had him. Our Dodge Dart was a really ugly lemon yellow :D
I love your Dad's pea analogy. Its absolutely true. Do you and your Dad ever talk about what he found so appealing about your mother?
Barista: I inherited the Dart, I drove it till the wheels fell off...literally... here it is: Dodge Dart
kat: she was really pretty and was the only woman that ever resisted his charms. He said that he stayed with her for my sake, but I noticed she had a weird hold on him. Must have been witchcraft..
Once again, very touching.
You found good memories from a rough time. Dad sounds like a good guy.
My good buddy growing up had a pool table at his house. He learned to be a bit of a shark and was great to pool hall hop with playing team games for beers...
Shockingly, your financial struggles didn't turn you into a suicide bomber or child molester, huh?
You do realise he is blogging from a maximum security prison don't you - he isnt in there for shoplifting...
It is definitely a story about making the best of a bad situation.
Dang - I'm surprised your mother didn't totally fuck you up what with throwing your things away. WTF was her issue? Do you ever ask her questions like this now that you are grown?
It's good to have bonding time with dads. BTW - I can't remember - do you have siblings?
Hang out time sounds like it really was like a therapy for you two. It's good that something meaningful came out of all that maddness.
Must have been channelling your pool post, since we ended up playing pool instead of bowling yesterday!
My family has its screwed upness as well, crazy crap, yada yada. I think it's lovely that the most mundane or inoccuous sorts of experiences are those we remember, maybe because they're in counterpoint to the loud weirdness around them.
Like a pool game.
Hammer,
Just wanted to drop by and say hello... You make lemonade out of lemons so often - you give me courage. Thank you for being you and sharing what you write...
My childhood was not that extreme, but when my dad 'got away from it all' and took me with him, it was down to the river to go fishing. Some of my best times as a child were wading in that river with my dad.
Think I better give him a call tomorrow night,
Thanks.
Great story. And that pool hall sounds like it was a great place to bond.
Sounds like you have a great dad. Be sure to hug him the next time you see him.
Oh well in that case...sorry. :(
At least you are who you are today.
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