Perspective
Sometimes you just have to look at things in perspective. Yeah my house is falling apart and at age 38 I'm starting to fall apart as well. But I've got a wife that cares about me and three kids that still want to hug me goodnight, so I feel pretty damn lucky. Life isn't always easy but it seems we have to look at the big picture and take stock of our lives once in a while.
Just like the book says: Don't sweat the small stuff..it's all small stuff.
I'm glad I made the difficult scary decisions when I did because I'm not sure I could make them now.
posted by Bill Rowland @ January 30, 2008
32 Comments
32 Comments:
Myself and my husband are completely and totally there with you and you.
This might sound sappy and convenient, but I promise you every bit of it is absolutely true.
It's all small stuff, Ham. It is.
Two days ago I was driving to work at the crack of dawn in the bitter cold in my car with bald tires and no breaks to speak of worrying about the (very closely approaching negative figures) bank account and the fact that our oven now refuses to heat beyond the temperature in the kitchen. (It was pretty depressing at the time, in retrospect, not so much.)
I saw a woman waiting at the bus stop carrying a baby carrier. In the frigid cold.
Healthy children, a roof over our heads, and food to eat. We're very fortunate.
I don't know what I'm trying to say (thanks to absolute exhaustion)... All I'm saying is... you're right.
We're pretty damn lucky.
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away! Thanks for reminding me!
WELCOME BACK MY FRIEND!
I too saw Tom Jones at the MGM Grand. Red Skelton was playing his last night ever at Caesars Palace and I so wanted to go- but the Doc I worked for was paying so....... She's a Lady it was!!
Excellent show !
Thanks for reminding me that the things I take for granted now will one day be missed more than I can imagine1 Especially the things my wife does that I THINK annoy me. That's why I love her. We aren't the same!!!!!
Great post my man.
John
A short post that says a whole heap. People who love and care for you make all the difference in this difficult world we live in.
On the subject of Tom Jones.....Well said about the hand on his cock thing. It's amazing that he still feels OK about doing it too!! Good on him! Bet women still love it as well!! hahaha!
well said!
Your last sentence is a good one. When you meet your obligations early, you can kick back a little when you're older. Not that we're old or anything... ;)
It's definitely the people that matter most. Glad you have some around you that care about you!
It's not always easy to remember not to sweat the small stuff. Good for you for being able to keep things in perspective.
I could not agree with you more. Perspective is the most important thing to have when enduring personal trials. If you didn't have it, you probably would not come out on top. You're a winner, my man. It'll all work out because of your attitude towards life.
Having a loving wife and kids beats everything. Good for you, my man.
You're so right thanks for remind us about perspective, life is great, life is beautiful and the very small itch is able to hide the whole picture in no time for a long time (I wonder if I express myself clearly). I mean it's not so easy to keep things in perspective and it's good to be told again and again.
I don't think you're falling apart at the ripe old age of 38, life will teach you that you still have plenty of youthfull hapiness to come.
Yes Sir, you are a very fortunate man.
I am going on 66 and count my self as about the luckiest man on earth because although I am falling apart and going down hill fast I have a wife of over 44 years that is by my side every minute of every day. Just loving her and knowing that she loves me makes life worth living. I do feel sorry for those who have never known the true love of a life time companion.
Yep. Marriage and kids are difficult and scary.
And wonderful and fun!
Sad to see so many young people holding off, scared to jump in.
I will be 46 on Friday Hamms and I would not have changed a thing
I have enjoyed every second of this ride. Sounds like your enjoying your ride also.
Through all of life's ups and downs; life is usually pretty good isn't it?
And by the way, in a few days, I'll have 5 years on you, so quit whining. Cheers!!
wait until after 40 - the word "legacy" creeps in and before you know it, creating one or twelve is all that matters - making your mark.
it's good to get rid of all the crap sometimes.
I think we all have days like this and or weeks and it just shows you what kind of life we all have had to keep on moving and going and such. I am not making much sense here but I know what I am talkin about.. LOL.. Hope it gets better.
I think we all have days like this and or weeks and it just shows you what kind of life we all have had to keep on moving and going and such. I am not making much sense here but I know what I am talkin about.. LOL.. Hope it gets better.
Thats awesome you have such a wonderful perspective on things...I tend to focus on the negative.
It's nice when people say they're content with their lives. Too many of us are unhappy because we want more, or wish we'd made different decisions.
Hindsight is always 20/20. True, you probably could not make those decisions in the past, now, but I bet you are making new decisions that will look scary in the future.
Keep makin it do what it do Hammer!
Flyinfox_SATX
When my back gets me down, which has been a lot lately, it's just these kinds of thoughts that keep me going. Despite how much I hurt, I have it so much better than so many others.
You're just a pup, in the big scheme of things...there is much more to come for you my friend. You are only in training for the future.
Mushy's got something there (ha! Says the old 55 year old). You've got great perspective, Hammer, and I really needed to read this today. Thanks.
p.s. Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things.
Too true my friend.
Having a loving wife and kids, having already made the scary decisions, you're already ahead of the 8 ball at age 38 Hammer...
That was a rather deep post. Gives me lots of stuff to think about.
Nice sentiment.
I've always theorized that it's best when people do the child-birthing earlier, because the later in life you get to, the more the gravity of the whole thing really throws you for a loop. There's something to be said for leaping before you look, in some cases.
You have the right perspective, for sure!
Anyone who reads this blog for any length of time can easily see that you've got your head screwed on strait, and that your kids are lucky as hell to have you.
And on the age thing... When I tell my 80 yr. old mother about fols like Mushy complainin' about bein' old and beat down at 61, she says "Aw hell, he's just a baby. Tell him to enjoy it now, because it only gets worse". I guess the grass is always greener somewhere.
You are soooooooo right..and I can relate to the "falling apart" part..lmao.
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