What a weekend...
I lost access to my blog this weekend and couldn't comment on blogger blogs. It kept trying to tell me my username and password did not exist. What a kick in the nuts..
I Emailed blogger and they reset my stuff and it works now. Thankfully.
My wife's Aunt passed this weekend. We saw it coming, she had been ill as long as I've known her. I just feel sorry for her mentally disabled son. He's 57 and has the capabilities of a 4 year old. He will be sent to a home because no one can or will take him in. I'm keeping the kids while she drives down with her mom to take care of what needs to be done.
My youngest daughter has been a terror all week. Cussing, hitting, lying, throwing 4 hour tantrums etc.. Her older sister just grew out of all that and has been an angel for a few months now. I'm hoping the youngest will follow suit.
The final straw is when she mooned her brother when my wife and I had our backs turned. She couldn't get her pants up fast enough not to get caught. Still no remorse, that's what worries me.
Where does she get this shit?
Well, I'm back in the blog business, I'll be making the rounds and catching up with what I missed this weekend.
posted by Bill Rowland @ July 22, 2007
35 Comments
35 Comments:
Lovely.
I live with three cousins -- a 20-something and two teenagers -- and they still pull the same crap as your youngest.
No worries, Hammer. There's hope yet.
My brother is 20 and still does that but then again he is a moron so bad example.
Boo on blogger messing with your username and password.
Sorry to hear about the aunt.
Ugh on the daughter being a terror. I feel for you.
Yeah for mooning. Ok, I realize that was unkind, but honestly? It is a teensy bit funny.
(Yeah, gee. I wonder where she gets it from.)
Even though we were kids at one time, it's still hard to know what kids will do. I don't have any kids.
Ham~~glad you are back and taking extra breaths for ya my man. Does she respond to consequences as options/ punishment?
I used to knock my brother to the ground and not let him up until he ate grass.
Blogger did that type of crap one too many times to me before I just abandoned them for Wordpress. I've since tried to go back but there just doesn't seem to be any good reason; Wordpress is almost flawless. Almost. And I'm finally used to it's short comings.
Good luck with the kid. I thank God every day I never made babies with my ex-psycho...can you imagine what that might have brought?
It's nice to know that as the kiddos grow older you trade one type of temper tantrum for another. I have a two year old and a seven year old, and they make me want to rip my hair out on a daily basis.
I swear kids are born with their personalities, and there really isn't much parents can do to mold them one way or another. At least I hope so, because I'm a lousy parent.
Sorry you had to go through the Blogger mess, but glad that you're back.
It sounds as though your daughter is still so insecure that she's doing anything and everything to test the limits of your love to see if it will turn into abuse.
We know it won't, but I hope that with the non-abusive discipline and structure of your loving home she will beome ever confident that your love will always be there...doesn't make her acting out her insecurities any easier to live with right now...but you and your wife are on the right path, Hammer.
I also wonder if she isn't missing the routine, and structure, of school. Just a thought.
Veritas et Fidelis Semper
Sorry to hear about your woes Hammer. I hope that your daughter's behavior problems are "just a phase," but all experienced parents know that each kid requires different parenting styles from time to time; just a thought. As caring and compassionate as you obviously are, I have no doubt that you'll navigate through that obstacle course just fine.
I was wondering what happened to you. Come on over to Wordpress.
Sorry about the aunt, and hope your daughter gets through this stage soon.
how old is your daughter? It might be one of those terrible stages that kids go through.
Ham-head, she'll grow out of it. Those long temper tantrums are the WORST. Shit, my 20 and 16 year olds still throw them. Hang in there.
To cheer you up, come play over at MY blog.
Glad that the blog snafu got fixed, Hammer.
I hope the home he has to go to is a decent one. My ex-byfriend's son lived in one and it was pretty good. Chris had the abilities of a 3-5 year old, couldn't dress or feed himself, but could ride a bike and play some computer games...
Lck of remorse is a scary thing. Especially to see it so young. I have NO idea how to deal with that. She's too young to be shipped off to the armed forces to egt her to straighten up and fly right. My empathy.
There are things I used to feel remorseful over that I no longer do. And there were instances where I felt no remorse at the time, but now I do. And there are things I may never feel remorse over, and things that I always have and probably always will. Why? Because it all depends on whether or not I recognize something as harmful mentally, emotionally, or physically. I probably wouldn't feel any remorse, either, if I were her. I understand, as an adult, why she shouldn't moon her brother, and why this is frustrating to y'all, etc. But, if I were her, I doubt I'd see that any harm was done... so no remorse.
Now, given the history you've told on the girls, I'm thinking that may not be her view of things. It would be mine, but... Anyway, I don't think she was born without a conscience, or anything like that. I think she's seeing life in some way you can't "get" right now because it's way outside your frame of reference for how children see things. Time, love, and discipline will probably fix it. If not, don't be too afraid to get help.
Yikes. Kids will be kids and then they grow up and have to deal with what we are dealing with. Its kind of weird. Because I remember my mom telling me before we had Kora that I was going to go through all the things she went through with me. Not hardly. My girls are more respectful than I ever was as a child. But I know what she means though.
Karma was invented by the first parents to get even with their kids. Both my kids are smart-mouthed wisecrackers with no respect for authority. I can't imagine where the little snots get it, either.
Sorry for the loss! That's a tough situation for her son! 4 hour tantrums sound exhausting...she will grow out of them!
My son grew out of those last year, I guess he hated that I took everything but his clothes and whatever food I cooked away, cuz by law I told him, that's all he had to have. hehehehehe
Good Luck to you and your family with everything Hammer. As far as the mooning, I have no advice. Cheers my good man.
Hey that happened to me with my blog as well. Maybe there was a major problem with blogger?
You seem to be going through a bad spell. Hopefully things will look up for you.
Tough thing with the Aunt, her son won't know whats going on or why the changes. Hopefully they will find a gentle home for him in his condition and not an SNF - those are the worst, like goign to hell...
I think the children were responsible for crashing your blog, you never know what they're capable of doing.
Just a stage Hammer, and at this time of the summer, all the kids are acting up out of sheer boredom. The lack of remorse is a little worrisome, but she's young.
I'm sorry to hear about your aunt too. Since I have two autistic sons myself I am very mindful of your families plight.
Best wishes and glad you're up and running again, blogwise anyway.
Cheers
See, I couldn't be the one to discipline a mooner- I'd be laughing too hard. I guess my inner 8 year old can trump my parenting skills...
Sorry about the Wifey-poo's aunt. That's the pits when someone is sick for a protracted period.
I read all the pithy comments. I liked the picture of the cat the best.
Lol, not only have I been through the lost username/password thing with blogger, but I too, couldn't resist the urge to drop my drawers as a teen.
I'm sorry to hear about your wife's aunt & her 57 year old son. My thoughts are with him.
Wow!! What a weekend's right!! I don't understand the "no remorse" thing - perhaps it's a phase - I hope so.....um TV? that's all I can think of for where she gets it.
Hope things are a bit better for the rest of the week - although flying solo is never easy. Good luck !!
Maybe -you- don't exist. Ever thought of that? Or maybe we don't exist, and you're currently sitting in a room with soft walls, imagining all of this.
Sometimes with kids, all you can do is stick to your rules and punishments and wait them out. I wish there were an easy answer for that. At least it's just the one right now instead of them all cutting loose.
That cat pic is awesome. Probably perfectly sums up how your daughters personality of late would look if visualized.
hi hammer
well, i just learned some facts about fetal alcohol syndrome.
poor impulse control, inappropriate behaviors and learning disabilities are all par for the course.
I can email you more info... like there is a latent stage from about age 4 to 11... and then things start to crop up.
Lack of remorse was one thing that was repeated over and over.
I will see if I can find a link to the powerpoint.
gotta love those kids eh? Mine have been pretty good this summer until this week....I have spent the last 3 days trying to decide where to hide the bodies...hee hee .
Sorry about the loss, esp. for her son; how is he going to cope now? Twice as sad.
Glad your eldest has grown out of cussing. Mooning is funny though...
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