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Been feeling a bit unmotivated the last few days. My routine is all screwed up.
My friend Gary Came by, he usually hangs out for the weekend because he lives about 60 miles away. It's good to see him but by the end of the second day I'm ready for him to go home.
He's one of these people that gets too comfortable in a situation and becomes complacent and unappreciative. I've known him for 25 years and sadly he's always been this way. Usually if I tell him off, or don't invite him for a while he straightens up. The final straw is when he smoked in my office and stunk the place up even though he knows it's not allowed.
I think he needs a time out. It's kind of pathetic when folks just don't grow up.
The power was off for several hours yesterday, we had another hell of a storm, a real gully washer. I went outside and stood in it for a while. Sometimes a good rain storm can wash away a mental funk. Not sure if it worked or not. In any case I've seen more rain in the last 3 months than the previous ten years combined. I'm going to have to build a fucking ark if this keeps up.
Since the power was off and the house was getting hot I took my son out to eat Chinese food at a little family owned place up the street. They are always super nice, clean and efficient.
I had vegetable egg foo young, spicy broccoli and steamed rice. I convinced the boy to order smoked duck. He always likes strange new foods. I had to convince him that they didn't kill the duck in the kitchen. Not sure why that matters.
He said he really appreciated the time alone with dad and I think he ate the duck just to make me happy..it looked a little strange and gamey.
The wife took the daughters to her Aunt's funeral, luckily, since her house was paid for they are letting the caregiver live there and take care of the handicapped son so he doesn't have to go to a home. I'm glad for that.
My fucked up sister in law is back on her feet and making money again, or so I hear. She's still not speaking to us but my wife's parents always come over and gush about how much money she's making and totally ignore the fact that she's a lunatic, a liar and a manipulative bitch.
She is incapable of really showing love so she compensates by buying people stuff. She is at Disney world right now with her brother. We haven't heard from him in 8 months, I guess she bought him over to her side. The strange thing is we didn't do anything to her except not excommunicate her son and his new wife. How dare we?
God I hate my wife's family. I wish sometimes we would get relocated somewhere far away from those shallow, passive aggressive, money grubbing cock suckers.
posted by Bill Rowland @ July 24, 2007
29 Comments
29 Comments:
When you get your ark built, float on over and visit.
If this keeps up, that will be the only mode of transportation that will work.
[Still a relative Newbie] Sorry to hear about the sister in law, very grim. But on the other hand, I am delighted to hear about the caregiver staying on. What a boon, not only for your and your family, but for him!
Really can't over emphasise the how great it will be for him to stay in the same place, with the same caregiver, same, same, same.
best wishes
I'm with you - your wife's cousin has a reason for not growing up - I don't get why other people refuse to. Honestly, it is this single selfish characteristic to remain immature that causes all the strife in the world.
Get ready Hammer we have more on the way...
I understand that one. I have been there and done that.
I remember in early 1989, it rained every day for 3 weeks in the Dallas area. The Trinity River, which I always jokingly called the Trinity Trickle, became a massive beast and I finally saw why they had such huge areas adjacent to the river that they allowed no building. Whenever it did flood, it did so with a vengeance.
I always felt that the areas of Texas around Dallas just couldn't handle deluge well. It would flood easily, but also drain away quickly, when it stopped raining.
Good luck.
We've finally passed our normal amount of rain in our part of FL for the first time in about 8 years. We've had some sort of drought, a little or a lot in all those years. It seems weird to finally be back into the almost every afternoon showers that Florida had when we first moved here.
I hate that your wife's relatives are such a pain. I'm lucky in that regard. At least she's a couple thousand miles away for a little while.
disclaimer: i thought stuff was going to be another kick ass recipe, and i was thinking chocolate and powdered sugar. shame on you!
but pertaining to your actual post, i think it's a blessing to have a big family littered with all kinds of societal dysfunction. just keeps it real, keeps you from becoming too high and mighty and plus, think of blog fodder.
i for one am thankful.
enjoy your wife's crazy family antics, it's entertaining at a distance!
I feel the same way about my husband family, then they all moved except one or two of them, and we handled that great. Now when we get comfortable and enjoy some of them, a bunch of the others moved back. And it's been nothing but fucking drama this summer. Man I am not looking forward to when the other three coming, get here.
I'm well versed in the unmotivated department. Sometimes things around the house just distract you from the task of documenting your life's most memorable experiences. I've even stooped so low as to write about my brother's teenage obsession with shit videos. I try to stimulate my mind by working on other creative projects, like the Photoshop animations Jen got me started on. Sometimes these other things drag out better quality fodder from the past....hang in there. It's just a temporary thing.
Attempt #2 at my comment: (The first one was poorly worded....) Sometimes I wonder if your wife isn't one of my half sisters. Only because we both come from f'ed up families. But I only have two half sisters and neither of them are married. (read: Can find a man to put up with their BS) So alas, your wife and I are not from the same family afterall.
But I think it is super admirable of you not to hold the family craziness over your wife's head. I don't think Shark would do that to me but I guess in the back of my mind I am so afraid of him having enough of them that he'd leave me.
Actually that won't happen, because A. Shark isn't shallow like that...and B. I'd run away from the family and never look back before he'd ever run away from me.
But still...good on ya for loving the wife unconditionally despite who she has no choice but to share blood with.
Inlaws suck ass!
Do you and I share the same sister-in-law? Is she a red-head and do you refer to her as "The Ice Queen?" I'm serious. You just described my SIL. I kind of hate her!
That's so great to hear about the family allowing the caregiver to stay in the house so the son doesn't have to go to a home. Wonderful!
Sorry to hear about your sister-in-law. Reading this was like listening to my husband talk about my own sisters. I feel for you guys, sometimes in-laws just suck.
That really is the best news, Hammer, about your wife's cousin being allowed to remain in his own home with the care-giver. Super!
Friends and family taking advantage is more of an emotional burden, and drain, than most people care to admit. However, the sharing of that burden/drain one of the best ways for us all to help each other. Not with quick fixes, but just listening, some common sense, and, most importantly, lots of humour.
My family didn't relocate, by the way, but I did. Now when they breeze through looking for a free ride...I mean "a visit", I get to once in a while say "I'm busy, but let me know where you're staying". Doesn't always prevent them from arriving anyway, but when it does it's truly a blessing. Yes, I, too, like many good folk here, have been marked for life by the "nice" brand.
There is always a plus side, though. You and your son enjoying some well-deserved time together.
Veritas et Fidelis Semper
I hear ya, Hammer. My wife has 2 sister, 19 y.o. twins (anybody interested?) and a 50 y.o. mother. There no men at all in the picture, so I get to take care of them all. None of them have a job, but they all have to have room and board, clothes and food, and of course all the legal issues and documants and whatever else it takes to immigrate to America. My God, sometimes I wonder what I got myself into.
Oh man, I am laughing hysterically because this post started out fairly even keel, a few things you were displeased with, then a nice time out with your son and then BAM!!! "I HATE MY WIFE'S FAMILY...COCKSUCKERS." You are very very funny. But really, I know how it goes.
I wish sometimes we would get relocated somewhere far away from those shallow, passive aggressive, money grubbing cock suckers.
You know, I worry about you when you hold things in. It's not good to bottle it up. You don't have to say nice things if you don't want to, or can't mean them. Drop the act, and just tell us what you really think of them.
I couldn't resist. :Þ
I feel the same way about my inlaws lol
Nyx said it quite well, Hammer !!!
Well Hammer, that's probably the most 'down' I've heard you.....it'll be all the rain maybe - your dose of Vitamin A (or is it D?) from the sun is depleting your happy stuff. Still, the Ark comment was hilarious!!!
And when routines are stuffed up it's also weird - kinda like floating without a purpose, in a way. I hope it all comes right for you and in the meantime I send you happy thoughts and some sunshine from NZ =D
Family can be absolutely unbearable! I hate when people are hung-up on money and think it matters more than people.
Sometimes, family just sucks!
Ryan I hear ya, we just got another one too.
Mcewen: I agree, he doesn't handle change well and would not last long among strangers.
Jeannie: I agree totally.
Ram We are getting pounded with rain right now.
Tweety: it sure sucks huh?
Jam: I'm surprised we haven't had more flooding like in 98 but who knows what is to come
supergurl: yeah adds blog flavor but a bad taste in my mouth ;)
burfica: one thing I hate is drama. I want it as far away as possible.
Jp: I hear ya and I actually liked the scat post.
marianne: I never hold it over her head but I also urge her to bitch more and not let them get away with frothing about how great my sister in law is. Right now the wife suffers in silence.
tysgirl: 1000%
Terri: She is a red head but not an ice queen but a total fake gushy liar with no conscience
Queen: I;m relived about my cousin too. He's not a bad guy at all.
Deborah: I try to keep a sense of humor about it but it's getting to the point where I want to go off the deep end and make everyone know exactly how I feel about their meddling.
Paul: Holy shit you have your hands full! Good luck finding homes for all of them.
Stepping: I work myself up sometimes :)
nyx: You know you are right. If everyone else can show their ass and get excuses made for them I should be able to as well ;)
snowmanpoop: sorry to hear about that.
Annie: Indeed! :)
KB: it must be the rain. I'll take the excuse ;)
Schmoopie: I hate when they use money as a weapon.
Jean: I agree totally.
The inlaws sound like a delightful bunch.
It actually rained here last night. Not much, but any rain in the summer out here is very weird. Usually it doesn't rain from May thru September.
Why wait to start building the ark? By the time you really need it, Home Depot will be out of lumber or underwater. ;-)
Glad the cousin can stay where he is. Loss of a parent is hard enough without having to relocate.
You sure have colorful in-laws! Think of them as great blogging material.
Oh ham~~ build that ark! Float it out this way... the fam would love it ya know...
XCLNT news on the cousin front...wunnerful wunnerful news!
Nice to hear I am not the only one that has a family straight outta the looney tunes pages...although mine isn't my inlaws...it is my family. They are all a bunch of nutcases and whackos..lmao.
You remind me of me. except more talented at writing.
Oh! I meant more talented, full stop, writing included.
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