More random thoughts
Ever say hello to a stranger you happen to pass by or hold a door open for someone and get absolutely no response? It kind of pisses me off. I'm introverted but try to be friendly. Some folks just don't make it easy.
I was at a restaurant paying for my meal at the cashier, and when I said, "Thanks, have a nice day" The girl behind the counter said "I love you too!" I pretended like I didn't hear it and walked outside thinking...what the fuck was that?
Ever meet someone who was just too friendly? Almost to the point of being creepy... It takes me a while to warm up to people. I don't make friends easily due to my hard crunchy outer shell. .
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When someone starts acting like my best buddy in the first five seconds, I have an overwhelming urge to get the hell out of there. Sales people are a different story...I know they are being fake.
When I was a little kid, my dad told me about Vietnam and the Donut Dollies. They were basically red cross volunteers that didn't have any specific skills and would go around meeting the soldiers in the field, giving them coffee and donuts as a morale boost.
Dad told me that many of these "morale boosters" ended up making money as prostitutes by having sex with the officers in each camp.
I saw a ceremony on the news the other day, where they were honoring these old Donut Dollies for their service. I just had to laugh because they still looked like hookers to me.
A couple of prostitutes tried to pick me up in Vegas one time. I wasn't interested, too drunk, too married, too worried about my schlong falling off.
When I was in 7th grade, a female police officer came in to our health class and gave us a lecture about staying away from prostitutes. She said that 90% of them were actually males that had gone through a sex change operation.
I raised my hand and asked her where a street hooker would get $80,000 for a sex change operation... She said, "They just do ok!" I thought it would have been smarter for her to tell us about venereal diseases but hey, I'm not a cop....
posted by Bill Rowland @ March 20, 2007
31 Comments
31 Comments:
I'm standoffish myself which leads folks to believe that I'm a snob. Actually, like you,I don't jump right into a friendship. It's more of a trust issue for me.
Sex change prostitutes. Sounds as if copper was just trying to scare the kids rather than provide accurate and more useful information.
When I worked with a county auditor's office, during an audit we discovered that the sheriff was using alot of the educational funds allotted for that stupid dog (can't recall the name - it was a costume that an officer wore to schools for the "just say no to drugs" bs). Sheriff was "stealing" funds and handing out special bonuses to his favorite deputies. He was scolded, told not to do it again and it was swept under the rug. The public never knew. Of course most folks do not ask to see financial mumbo jumbo despite it being public records.
I get a bit suspicious of people who get too friendly too early, but some people probably feel the same way about me. I can open a dialog with any stranger, anywhere, anytime; I worked tech support for a while, and got used to talking to hostile, stupid, angry people a lot, so a friendly conversation is easy for me. If the person gives signals that they don't want to communicate, I break off. I tend to prefer solitude most of the time, though.
Used to run around with a guy who had an adequate response for those he greeted that ignored him..he would just doff his hat and say, "Fuck you very much" smile and go on his way.
Hi again Hammer !
It pushes my buttons big time when I've gone out of my way to be nice to someone and they don't acknowledge it at all, even to say thank you. Entitlement rather than politeness seems to be the hallmark of the self-centered.
I tend to be very slow to get to know people, usually takes me up to 2 years, because I watch to see if people are consistent and honest and kind and reliable.
Too much, too soon usually smacks of insincerity.
You called the female p.o. on her inaccuracy - and she couldn't admit it !
my best friend started to lose his hair around age 17 or 18, so waaay back then, i told him to grow it long, cause the hair grows in full around the temples the longer it gets, right? It worked like a charm, he has a full head of hair... and up until 3 years ago, a long scraggley uneven ponytail to his ass.
One day, he just up and cut it off (went to a barber) and had it cut to just past his shoulders.
It looks really good when he pulls it back (or lets it fall) all even, no split ends...
I bet his wife really finds it attractive.
I am just sayin'...
random thought....
*whistles*
sidesteps away------
I'm introverted and I don't make friends easily either...having a few quality lasting friendships is what I prefer.
I've got a sign in my living room:
"I love mankind-it's people I can't stand."
The reasons for it are these very instances you have pointed out.
I'm with you bro, I've got one of those 'hard crunchy outer shells myself.
Interesting about the Donut Dollies... I had no idea.
I guess I am one of those with the soft mushy shells. Due to my job as a letter carrier, [government street walker?], I'm afraid I like to greet and talk and relate easily. But I just flake off people who don't respond to a nicety... Their loss is how I view it. $80,000? Cripes I am the wrong kind of street walker! Not that I want to be a guy... but wouldn't hurt to have that kind of bread and honey!
I'm like you, I don't open up and trust people right away, and I know that I come off as standoffish and unfriendly to some people as a result.
"Ever say hello to a stranger you happen to pass by or hold a door open for someone and get absolutely no response? It kind of pisses me off."
That REALLY pisses me off!
nomas: exactly, it;s a trust issue.
and yeah how are we supposed to trust cops when they act like that?
bobg: I can have an amiable conversation too as long as it stays like that, I still prefer to be left alone for the most part.
guyk lol I've known guys like that too. Pretty funny to be around but I never had the stones to do that.
annie: so right on the self centeredness. I'm not sure if that was police department policy to lie to the kids, but it sure was dumb.
infinitesimal: You should be on one of those what not to wear makeover shows ;)
jenafear: Same here. I don't have the time for fake superficial people.
gunz: I need that on a bumper sticker!
Jingo, It was especially uncomfortable at my dads military reunion where I had to pretend I didn't know about their little side job...
Cheesy lol I guess you would have to be personable at your job. I'm not sure what kind of hookers get 80K operations but if a cop says it's true....
Brandon, I'm sure people like us get misinterpreted all the time.. their loss I guess.
freddie: thanks for visiting. Yeah
it pisses me off too, they are arrogant bastards.
Donut Dollies? Dad never mentioned that part. It's probably a good thing he only met Mom long after that...
The transvestite thing is real, but not that huge a chunk. And they aren't technically females, or at least most of them aren't. They still have all the "equipment" in place.
I still wouldn't visit a hooker. I don't understand it for the life of me. It's impersonal, it's expensive, and it's scary as hell. (Don't know if there's such a thing as a hooker who services straight women.) The chance of picking up a gump (male dressed as a female) is scary - those guys could literally kill you if they tried to rob you and you resisted. And even the female prostitutes look like the zoo let them out this morning.
- ISU Tinkerer
I live in the South and everyone here for the most part is friendly.
I think it is some kind of unwritten law here that if you make eye contact with someone, you greet/speak and acknowledge them.
I too have a hard crunchy outer shell. People that are too friendly I suspect to be faggots.
I love you Hammer - shall we best friends forever and meet up every saturday and swap underwear and be friends forevere and ever and ever?
I like friendly huggy people. I don't have any problem with them at all.
Sometimes a person just doesn't hear what you say because their attention has turned to the next task or customer. I don't let that bother me.
Never met a hooker I didn't like, but I haven't met all of them. LOL I've talked to quite a few of them though, like the rest of us, they are just trying to get through life.
I've only used the services of one of them and that was years ago and she was really friendly and a very good salesman. It was like two friends having sex.
I've known a number of people that have had sex changes. Now they are sort of weird. Something isn't quite right in their heads, even after they have it done.
I know one that has cost the taxpayers more money than I care to think about.
ISU: There are all kinds of weird services out there, not sure if I want to check the plumbing though.
I do think the cops should let them be, unles they have indeed escaped from the zoo.
groovy: I've lived in the south all my life and I guess that's why it bothers me when people aren't friendly.
lexcen: lol I can usually tell if they are after the mr meaty if they maintain proper eye contact ;)
mutley: lol I bet you say that to all the boys ;)
BBC: As far as hookers go, I've met some in my travels and I end up feeling sorry for them, most of them tell stories about being serially raped as children by brothers, fathers and uncles. They end up using their body as a commodity because that's all they know. Many are emotionally dead to the opposite sex and usually addicted to something. Not saying all are this way, Just the kind that walk the streets and hang out in bars.
i'm a friendly person, i hug and smooch people all the time, i'm also touch"er", but i know who you can and can not do that with. of course right away people see that i am a smiling happy person full of non-judgmental behavior, and immediately start to hug and smooch me too. i call waitresses "sweetheart" or "sweetie" and i am not at all being rude.
but catch me on a bad vibe or step to me wrong and i'll dice ya and slice ya without a second thought. hahaha
and on the other note, where i live, i'd guess a good lot of the hookers are transsexuals haha!
I guess I'm more a product of Denver than I would have guessed. I arrived in Seattle and was surprised by the local phenomonon where people may make eye contact, but they never react in any way- no smile, words, or even a nod. They may hold a door or elevator, or may some other polite gesture, but they don't smile or speak. It's bizarre. Then there's me- I use the word "howdy" in all seriousness. I'm probably ruining all the statistical bell curves in this place...
I'm not into people who invade my 'personal space' - you know the ones who you have to keep stepping back from? Anyway, that's kind of off the topic...I lived in the UK for a while and got used to people ignoring me...when I came home and people said "Hi" when walking past I got a shock!! It's much nicer though :)
"too drunk, too married, too worried about my schlong falling off" hahahahahaha!! But just as well!! I can actually understand why a woman might become a 'private' prostitute as a means to an end (saving for something specific)(not saying I'D do it though!) - and I too feel sorry for the ones who have had horrific sexual experiences early in life and so often become drug-dependent and the cycle continues.....
doncha mean:
'What not to HAIR'?
;) ;)
If prostitution were legal in all states, there probably wouldn't be nearly as much disease and crime associated with it...just a wild guess.
I'm just tickled pink when a kid holds a door open for me, I give them a big smile and a "thank you". It happened today, too-and it was a boy of about 12. His mother taught him manners!
Gee, adults sure tell a lot of untruths under the guise of trying to protect kids, don't they?
Just the other day I opened this door for this girl, and she didn't say thank you so I said "you're welcome" when she walked past and she shot back "screw you" and I was like "Please!" (Because she was smokin' hot!)
b: As long as the person is indeed genuine I think outgoing people can be cool. It just takes me time to adjust.
stucco: some cities have their weird quirks. The midwest has very friendly people and it takes me a while to get adjusted when I visit my relatives. Some cities are full of aloof assholes too..or so it seems.
KB: personal space people irk the hell out of me, some countries don't abide by the 18 inch rule.
You'll have to tell us about your time in England.
infinitesimal: you need our own show :)
gunny: damn straight, that pretty much goes with most vice crimes.
janet: I am shocked an amazed when a kid doesn't slam a door in my face. pleasantly of course :)
malnurtured snay: some hot chicks thing courtesey is owed them. good for you for calling her on it. I find women who act like that lost about 5 hot points right off the bat :)
Are you a cancer by any chance? Because you sound a LOT like me. I usually tend to be almost standoff-ish at first, just to keep people at a distance until I deem it ok to continue...
love the prostitute talk during health class! What the hell?
I don't understand these non-nice people. If someone holds the door open, of course one should say thanks!
I do nice stuff for people all the time. I don't expect any response, but I mentally file away a silent "fuck you" for those that don't give it. When I hold a door open for someone, even a nod would do. WTF? Assholes that take that stuff for granted need to learn some damn manners.
People suck. And that cop was an idiot. I've seen some he-shes in Asia, and you can tell. You'd have to be drunk as hell to not be able to tell 99% of the time.
Vancouver: scorpio but I think it's learned instead of natural :)
m: people are fucking weird. I wouldn'thave a blog otherwise :)
gunny: damn, people are assholes by nature, it seems it takes a good parent to bring themn around.
fathairybastard: it seems that the cops want to be believed no mater what bullshit they spew.
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